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Values and the 20 commandments

Amma has given us practical advice and guided us at every stage of our lives. And it has been solid advice on life skills, based on her 90 years of wisdom. These are “gold nuggets of wisdom” drawn from the various roles in her life of a mother, a grandmother, a wife, daughter, daughter-in-law, and a sibling. And she has given this to all the grandchildren and their spouse during their marriage. here the 20 commandments and her values.

Lakshmi Santhanam in a blue silk sari with four family members in silk saris and a green kurta, in a hall
With family, February 2025

Advice to grandchildren

The twenty commandments, in her own handwriting in Tamil, across four pages.

  • A handwritten page in Tamil headed Amma's advice, with numbered points 1 to 7
    Amma's advice, page 1
  • A handwritten page in Tamil with numbered points 8 to 12
    Amma's advice, page 2
  • A handwritten page in Tamil with numbered points 13 to 18
    Amma's advice, page 3
  • A handwritten page in Tamil with numbered points 19 and 20
    Amma's advice, page 4

Two cards from a wedding, 15 December 2019

Typed and legible, so they are transcribed here exactly.

  • A typed card of blessings from Lakshmi Paati, dated 15 December 2019, listing the sixteen riches
    A wedding blessing 15 December 2019

A wedding blessing

On this special day may God bless you both to live a long life in perfect harmony with Health, Wealth and Happiness. You should always live with mutual love, respect and affection for each other. My blessings to both of you to have the sixteen most important riches in the world. The sixteen riches are … Education, Courage, Success, Children, Bravery, Wealth, Abundant food, Good fortune, Enjoyment of pleasures, Intelligence, Beauty, Fame, Honour, Charity, Family and Healthy long life. Blessings from Lakshmi Paati, 15/12/2019.

  • A typed card headed My advice for a Happy Married Life, eight numbered points, signed Love From Lakshmi Paati, 15 December 2019
    My advice for a Happy Married Life 15 December 2019

My advice for a Happy Married Life

1. First you must understand yourself. 2. Then you must understand your spouse. 3. You should practice give and take in your relationship. 4. You should have and show respect for each other. 5. You should support each other's ambitions and wishes. 6. You should appreciate each other's good deeds. 7. You should listen to each other. 8. You should respect each other's feelings. Love From Lakshmi Paati, 15/12/2019.